Hey friend,

From my time managing Wordpress sites, I never met a WooCommerce site that didn't struggle with performance. I don't think it's WooCommerce itself as much as it is what people do with it (fill the database until it takes forever to run a query). I do have some opinions about best practices though.

1. Keep MySQL local, don't add latency.
2. Use a caching plugin but accept that it isn't going to help on some pages.
3. Use a CDN, I like CloudFlare.
4. Go bare minimum on plugins, with the most lightweight theme you can find.
5. Ditch security plugins and instead focus on other best practices: https://codex.wordpress.org/Hardening_WordPress

Know that performance issues may still occur, and it may not be your fault or the server's fault. Sometimes, I think, people outgrow the use of Wordpress for e-commerce and just don't want to admit it. Don't be afraid to admit it, make sure you know your alternatives for if/when that day comes.

Jarland

Thanks for your answer and sorry I missed it. Keeping MySQL local is interesting as most people would want it on a different server

Do I need a plugin for cloud flare?

Yes I need to strip down my plugins

Ditch security plugins, now this is interesting as I do have have wordfence and it is a little heavy weight

I actually moved from Magento because it was slow