I’ve tried everything!
https://www.digitalocean.com/community/tutorials/how-to-set-up-a-remote-database-to-optimize-site-performance-with-mysql https://www.cyberciti.biz/tips/how-do-i-enable-remote-access-to-mysql-database-server.html https://www.digitalocean.com/community/questions/how-to-allow-remote-mysql-database-connection https://www.digitalocean.com/community/questions/unable-to-connect-to-remote-mysql-server
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Hey friend!
Let’s simplify all of this a bit with a theoretical scenario:
On server 1.1.1.1 I make sure that bind-interface is set to 0.0.0.0. I check this with “netstat -tulpn” to make sure MySQL isn’t just listening on 127.0.0.1. If it is, then I haven’t set bind-address, and need to work on that before continuing. Otherwise, I continue by running this in MySQL shell on 1.1.1.1:
create database digitalocean;
Then:
grant all on digitalocean.* to 'jarland'@'2.2.2.2' identified by 'mypassword';
Now on 2.2.2.2 I run:
mysql -h 1.1.1.1 -u jarland -pmypassword digitalocean
Then I should have a MySQL shell. If I don’t, and no firewall is blocking port 3306 outbound on 2.2.2.2 or inbound on 1.1.1.1, I didn’t do one of the above steps.
Jarland
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