Wow i totally lost this thread, but thanks very much for the replies, and specially to you and your points Matt! I really appreciate it.
I have been trying to get my head around it since posting.. and im still stuck w/ a lot of questions and having a hard time keeping track of all my posts on stack, here, etc.. it's really giving me a hard time. To date, I've still not moved my apps from my shared hosting to digital ocean because of this :( it's such a pain and I dont have much time to tinker.
I just really needed to get my LAMP + FTP + mail + ioncube, etc setup the way i need it so i can get back to what i do best, Applications Development.
So far this is proving to not be my cup of tea :(
I've managed and deployed tons of Servers using WAMP and i have no problem w/ that at all. but w/ Digital Ocean, everything's just alien to me and it's costing me so much time. Perhaps some other time when i have more time to sit thru this for days - i dont mind